The following list of 22 Social Media Tips For Relational Success is written by Curtis Alexander.
22 Online Social Media Tips for Relational Success
By Curtis J. Alexander
1) If you’re feeling flustered, upset, angry, wait a while before logging in to facebook. Fingers typing can be as damaging as a tongue talking.
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2) When you have your privacy settings so that friends of your friends can read your posts, word travels. Fast. Be careful what you share. For example, a future, or current, employer could be reading.
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3) Posting on Facebook is like Laundry. You only put it out in the backyard where your neighbours see it when it is clean. If you wouldn’t wear it, don’t share it.
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4) Be sure to encourage people on your friend list once in a while with an occassional friendly comment or a “like”!
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5) Don’t click “like” on absolutely everything all your friends post on facebook. Use it occassionally for emphasis. Overusing it tends to lessen it’s actual meaning.
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6) Don’t mass email your friend list on facebook with your latest contest to get them to vote in so you win a prize- these are advertising campains on facebook that are designed to make the company a profit. Your friends do not want spam. People get annoyed with that very quickly. If there are 10 or more friends in the Address bar, then everytime someone replies, everyone gets the email again and again and again.
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7) If you want to promote something, make an “event” for it, or simply post it to your wall and ask people to follow the link. That way those who want to participate can choose to click. Those who do not wish to participate, will not be bothered.
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8) Don’t break heavy news (good, bad, OR controversial) to your close family (parents, siblings, spouse etc) and close friends using facebook or twitter or any place online. This is something you should discuss in private with your close loved ones in person, FIRST. This is long before the internet should be involved. Then later on, as an informed and hopefully agreeable family, you can decide if the whole world needs to know or not on the internet. (Example: two people get engaged). If you fail to break heavy news to your family in private FIRST, and then they are on facebook to read your big news, they will feel neglected and left out. (“Why wasn’t I told?”) Facebook is just a tool. But it can ruin relationships. You can also help to build relationships if Online Social Media is used wisely.
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9) When sending a game request to a friend: If you don’t get a response to your invitation to play that game after sending them 1 or 2 requests on facebook, then sending them another 10 requests for it will not help. That friend is not interested in the game. Remember, not everyone plays games on facebook.
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10) Don’t forget the rest of your life. Unless you are bed ridden or very sick, you should get out and enjoy life! Friends are still best in person! Going out to work is good and valuable! Go to a church service! Meet someone for coffee!
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11) It is possible to go a whole week not using your favorite social media online. You might enjoy the change of pace!
I know I did it, and it was great.
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12) Public Facebook walls are not the ideal place for debates.
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13) I have to have a very good reason to add someone to my friend list, otherwise I won’t. Be selective in who you add. I go with the general rule, that if you have known them in person, and you got along ok, go for it. When it comes to friend lists, “bigger” doesn’t always mean “better”.
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14) Be picky on which apps you add. Every game and app you allow into your facebook profile now has access to your info. You can delete apps by going to your privacy settings. (See next tip)
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15) Take the time to review your overall privacy and security settings (click the white arrow on the top right hand side of the screen to see the menu, then click on “privacy settings”). You have very precise privacy controls at your disposal when you are on facebook.
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16) I know people who are not on facebook or twitter, and some who are not even on the Internet. They are still alive and breathing, enjoying life! These online social sites are just tools… they are not life.
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17) If you have a church, or several friends with a common interest, create a group! It’s a great way to keep everyone informed.
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18) If you value a connection you have to a friend, but don’t like a particular post, you can just hide their post from your news feed (click the button on the top right hand side of the post.) Don’t argue with them in the post’s comment box.
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19) Keep things generally positive on the social sites, but don’t be artificial – be real.
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20) I have yet to find an actual use for Facebook’s “poke” button. lol I guess it’s a personal thing. For me, in real life, I never poke anyone. I call their name politely if I want their attention. So why would I “poke” them on facebook?
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21) People enjoy humor- it lightens their day. Post something humorous once in a while- just keep it decent and family-friendly! I like to post pictures I take of funny labels and street signs with unintentional, harmless, yet funny mistakes in them. If it made me smile, I’d like to give a smile to someone else too!
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22) Post something inspirational once in a while. Thinking is good. I like to use Scriptures from the Holy Bible. Sometimes, I will make a video and share my own original songs which I write and play, and sing.
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